Our friendship was a bit awkward after that, to say the least.
A couple of weeks later, we were out with a couple of his friends. I was on my second drink at the bar (and that was when I could hold my liquor pretty well for a college girl), and suddenly I was cuckoo, like falling over my feet wasted. It got worse instead of better, and I vaguely remember walking back to my best friend's condo. He went upstairs with one of the other guys, and I went out to the balcony to smoke a cigarette with this guy, Tom. I went to the bathroom, and when I came back, he gave me another beer.
**Note: I am putting in some details. If this will bother you, please don't read it**
The next thing I remember, I was being sodomized on the pullout couch. Words cannot express how painful it was. When I went to cry out, I realized that my mouth felt like it had been propped open for hours.
"Stop!"I tried to yell, but it came out a whisper. He did stop what he was doing, though.
"You shut up, bitch, or I'll kill you. You and your little loverboy upstairs."
"He's not my--" I began, and he interrupted me by ... well, by filling up my mouth again. I quickly realized why my mouth was so sore.
I was crying so hard, but I did it silently.
He said, "You're getting snot on my dick. You'd better stop or I'll make you lick it off."
I guess he had an aversion to mucous, because he got on top of me and started raping me vaginally. He had obviously spent some time doing this already. The sheets of the pull-out couch were white, and I'd slept platonically on them with my best friend many, many times. They were spotted with blood, I realized, and then I looked around and it occurred to me that "spotted" was a weak word. This had clearly been going on a long time.
I begged him to stop over and over and he said, "You're really boring."
Finally, I said, "I want you to come. I want to make you feel good."
He stopped what he was doing (briefly), got in my face, and said, "You don't have the stuff to make me come, little girl. You just don't have it."
Then I kind of blacked out again, which I'm glad about, and the next thing I know, someone is coming down the stairs. It was, of course, my best friend, the one which I'd had drunken casual sex with just a couple weeks before.
I was so sore and doped up and naked and bloody and ashamed that I just said, "I'm going to go home, I think."
He didn't say anything.
I grabbed my clothes and ran for the bathroom. I couldn't pee, even though I had to go terribly. I sat there trying to make pee come out, but no luck. When I stood to get dressed, I cried with pain and got very scared when I saw all the blood in the toilet bowl.
I flushed and went to the sink. My hands were spotted with blood like a henna tattoo, and I used soap for what felt like forever, but even after that I don't know if the blood was gone or not. I was still seeing it.
I walked out the door without saying goodbye and went home. I locked the door and took a bath and looked at the bruises and felt the blood still seeping out of every orifice. My jaw ached terribly and popped every time I went to open my mouth. He had bitten off a piece of my nipple, and that hit me hard. I had fed my daughter with that nipple.
I laid in the bathtub until the water got cold, then I reran another tubful. My vagina and anus were still bleeding, and I was afraid to look. I fell asleep in the bathtub, and when I woke up I felt alive and myself, at least.
I got dressed in sweats and a t-shirt and made a grilled cheese sandwich. I cleaned my apartment, even though it hurt terribly. My best friend stopped by later, and I was going to tell him until I saw his face. He had a bag with him, and he wouldn't look at me, just handed me the bag.
"The sheets," he said. "There's blood all over them. You ruined the sheets, but it's your blood, so maybe you won't mind how dirty they are" or something like that, and then he left.
"I had my period," I yelled after him. "I just had my period, that's what the blood is."
He didn't listen. He knew damn well I was lying. He just didn't know why.
And life went on. I put on a huge amount of weight and cut my hair short because I didn't want anyone to think of me as pretty. I became sexually promiscuous with some pretty shady characters. I basically gave Emily to my parents for awhile because I was such a mess. I flunked out of college.
My parents knew that something had happened, but they didn't know what, and I certainly couldn't tell them. They made a deal where they would pay for me to take a summer course at UNH and, if I did well, they would pay for me to go part-time in the fall, and, if that was successful, return to being a full-time student in the spring.
I had some successes in college, and that built up a bit of the confidence. I met and married my ex-husband. I became a teacher. Life went on.
Until I bumped into my best friend at Wal-Mart one day in 2009 and asked if we could get a drink, that I had some things I needed to talk to him about. That whole saga is recorded here, if you're interested in reading it.
I figured that my best friend knowing the truth would be an absolution of some sort, because I knew I had hurt him badly, and it was.
I truly believed that the rape was in the past, that I had healed, that I was over it.
This is all I can write for right now. I'm starting to get upset and anxious, but I'll write "Repercussions of Rape Part II" in the next few days.
I will say this, to anyone who has ever been raped or molested or anything like that ... please, please, please know that it's not your fault, and know that there are people who will listen. Sometimes it just takes awhile to be able to say the words ...