tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3196908370614674789.post7813055456239913568..comments2024-03-27T03:11:25.622-04:00Comments on The Philosophy of KLo: A Grief Worse than Death?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13955854427063032485noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3196908370614674789.post-22159513023792686272009-07-21T14:01:11.268-04:002009-07-21T14:01:11.268-04:00It is a loss, and the way hearts work, losses must...It is a loss, and the way hearts work, losses must be grieved, even if they are losses made even worse by still being present. I also want to tell you, from personal experience, that all the qualities of the person you loved are not gone, they're just submerged in the disease. They may come back, definitely not exactly the same, but they may come back. Until then, and even if that never happens, take care of yourself and heal.Chris LaMay-Westhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13998448439377249844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3196908370614674789.post-91039382992555899182009-07-20T09:23:15.307-04:002009-07-20T09:23:15.307-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Jaideep Sobtihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10360014448634731375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3196908370614674789.post-27976677216824093132009-07-19T08:36:49.457-04:002009-07-19T08:36:49.457-04:00I think that in both you are losing someone, and s...I think that in both you are losing someone, and so both bring about the same kinds of pain. But a death will happen decisively and a loss like that will be gradual, and sneak up on you. It will leave you doubting for a long while and won't give you a chance to grieve and heal, just because there is always some hope. So maybe it is both better and worse.Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13643728906435388394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3196908370614674789.post-85260761563793315412009-07-18T01:26:58.752-04:002009-07-18T01:26:58.752-04:00In Clockwise, John Cleese's character says &qu...In Clockwise, John Cleese's character says "It's not the despair I can't stand - it's the hope". <br /><br />Whilst someone is still alive, there is always the hope that they will change back: a cure for Alzheimer's, a change of heart, a rediscovery of the person we fell in love with. When they are dead, then we accept that loss, however much it hurts. <br /><br />Whilst they still breathe, it's much harder to accept that loss and in some cases, as with divorce, bitterness over what has been taken away can come to the fore.<br /><br />I understand.Martin Willoughbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05605554706836638988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3196908370614674789.post-13684360173782204472009-07-17T22:31:40.938-04:002009-07-17T22:31:40.938-04:00*hugs*
I think loss is much worse than death in m...*hugs*<br /><br />I think loss is much worse than death in many ways.Danyelle L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10366276085080565870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3196908370614674789.post-56907818143708725492009-07-17T22:25:02.908-04:002009-07-17T22:25:02.908-04:00I think that you are absolutely right. I believe ...I think that you are absolutely right. I believe it in my own heart, anyway. My father is a funeral director. I've grown up with death. Death is natural if hard to bear sometimes. But I've seen all manner of death, and I can readily say, that the people I miss the most, aren't dead at all. They're walking the earth in a state far worse than death. I don't think you grieve for the dead, so much as for yourself in dealing with their loss. But the people you loose to circumstances, they represent wounds that never heal fully because the splinters that caused them are still inside, festering with all the things that might have been. <br />Looking at someone you've known for years, loved endlessly, dreamed about knowing the rest of your life, and being forced to face the truth that they are no longer the person that lives in your mind is, to me, the most difficult thing you will ever do. I have done it, with friends that changed my life, friends that I thought I would grow old with. I came to understand, that they were no longer the people that they had been. They grew away from me, and recognizing that was harder than loosing them, and the worst came from seeing how the change within them was for the worse, a weakening, a crack that will (and has) spread. I could not save them from that. It wasn't my choice. But I live every day wishing that it had been, mourning their loss.Artemis Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10849091563671031929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3196908370614674789.post-84493216640763882212009-07-17T21:21:28.472-04:002009-07-17T21:21:28.472-04:00Well it is definitely like a death, my divorce I f...Well it is definitely like a death, my divorce I felt in a word "broken" from the entire thing and yes it felt worse because he was still around, he was still visible etc and so forth and I often wondered what happened to the nice man I married. <br /><br />Honestly I don't know that there is a comparison however, whatever affects you in a certain way is the way it is, nobody else has to agree you know what I mean? People thought I should be over my marriage within a couple months, everyone has their own timetable on dealing with the grief.<br /><br />I think a death of a child though has to really top the list.StarvingBitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11905457524933733167noreply@blogger.com